What is shyness? It is a state of mind.A shy person is
constantly evaluating himself: am I looking alright, am I speaking properly, will others like me, will others
refuse me etc. This constant preoccupation with himself results in his not
enjoying or getting involved properly with the current activity.Shyness
manifests in physical symptoms like stuttering, blushing, shivering, sweating
and avoiding eye contact.Boys who are shy of girls are usually those who have
grown up in all-boys families or studied in all-boys’ schools. Shyness won’t
help you if you want to date a girl, because most girls like men who can
express themselves. You must overcome coyness if you are determined to date the
girl that you like. Below are tips and information to help you speak and
impress the girl of your dreams.
* First, you must
build up your confidence.One must not feel inferior physically or mentally.Try
to feel confident about your worth by concentrating on your positive qualities
and improving on your negatives. It is important that even if you are not
feeling that confident, you approach a person looking confident and the rest of
the interaction will flow easily. The best fact about shyness is that it is
invisible.
* You can practice
in front of a mirror to build up confidence. Speak, move, and make gestures in
front of a mirror so you can see how you look like.Also ask comments and
suggestions from female friends on how to make yourself more attractive to your
crush. Female friends can give better solutions than other guys, because they
know what a girl wants compared to boys.
* You can also
write her a letter to express your intention. Write her e-mails and snail
mails; the latter is preferred because it’s much romantic. Girls love guys who
make effort in the things that they’re doing and the gifts that they’re giving.
* You can follow
also approach of making good jokes.Girls love to be teased besides getting
flattered. You can learn jokes by reading humor and comic books. However, it’s
better if you can learn how to become spontaneous. Break the ice through humor
whenever she feels discomfort. You have a high chance to take her out if you
can make her smile.
* Communicate with
her by text or chat. You can develop confidence if you can make her smile
through texting and chatting. If you have communicated before you meet in
person, ensure that you aren’t making pretensions so she won’t expect.
* You should
practice conversation skills. Learn how to strike up and maintain
conversations. Read up books, newspapers, movie reviews etc. Develop your
knowledge about your favorite things. Go to plays, sporting events and remember
interesting things about them. Relate small stories, jokes and anecdotes.
* Give preference
to those hobbies or work, in which you can perform well. When initially
attracting a girl, actions speak louder than words. Excelling at a sport, music
or another hobby will draw intrigue while providing another window for a girl
to see who you are. Continue prioritizing activities that you love, and girls
will be impressed with your passion.
* Attend events
where you can couple with girls. One great way to meet girls is to go to events
where they actually hook you up with a girl. They do this at certain dances,
and of course if you take dance lessons. Also there are times when you are set
up with someone, hopefully a girl on a school or work project.
* You can
reduce shyness by practicing like do blind dates. While it's true that getting
set up on a blind date might seem a little embarrassing, like you can't get a
girl to go out with you on your own or something, go ahead and encourage
everyone you know to hook you up. Swallow your pride and go out with whoever
will have you. The more you date, the easier it becomes, and as you get better
at it, perhaps it will help with the shyness
