Tuesday, December 21, 2010

How to Use Body Language Effectively to Impress a Girl

Lets talk about body language, and how it is connected to your attitude and confidence. We all know, that people communicate with each other on multiple levels. Words what we say, is just small part of our communication when we communicate, the majority of communication is done with body language, vocal tones, vocal pitch, movement, and gestures. When I say body language, I mean: pitch of voice, tonality, speed, how you walk, the way you carry yourself through the world, having eye contact, how fast you move (hands… etc), shoulders, chest... You may ask why body language is so important. First, because it is how we sub-communicate with others.

Lets take a look what are most common mistakes are when somebody tries to pick up a girl:
• Talking too fast (to say as much things in shortest period of time)
• Talking too much (to hide your inner state (uncomfortable))
• Not knowing what to say next
• Drinking (too become comfortable)
• Asking too many questions (you want to create rapport too soon, as she doesn’t wants you at all) she knows its cause just the way she looks
• Body language wrong (hands connected, foots too close, shoulders down, leaning in)
• Buying her drinks (trying to impress her, or even worst, get her drunk)
• Not being comfortable talking with strangers.

Let’s correct above body language, here is list of things that you should fix …
• Keep hands out of pockets.
• Stand with feet wider apart. (Not This II but more like this I I)
• Don't swing around with your hands when you walk.
• Never look at the floor (down) when you walk (look above horizon)
• Expose your chest
• Shoulders up (in relaxed way)
• When you walk, walk slowly, bigger steps, but slow.
• Use lot of space no matter where you are, because it radiates with confidence...
• Don't dress in too many dark colors (just when you want to contrast with something).
• Don't be afraid to go into people’s personal space. Personal space is society bull. It doesn't exist!! If you if give a , its going to exist -- otherwise it won’t!
• Always lean out… trust me, when you lean out, people around you will start to lean in to hear you.
• Touch people when you talk with them (non-sexual) because you must create conversation on all levels! Not just verbal.
• All your body language must be in same speed. That means you can’t walk slowly, move with confidence, and then talk fast, like Bart Simpson!!
• It must be at the same speed, otherwise they will tell you that you are 'trying to be cool'.

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